Priyanka Chatterjee
Digital Study Hall
I would like to share an experience from my work life, an experience which countless working women face every day when they leave their houses. I was visiting District Institute of Educational Training (DIET) Chitrakoot and Kaushambi, I got late and boarded a bus at Allahabad for Lucknow. It was 4 in the afternoon, I was certain that I would reach home in four hours. As luck would have it engine of the bus broke down, we got delayed by more than 3 hours. When I boarded the bus there were 25 men and 3 women onboard. As as time went by I was the only women left on the bus. It was then that I started feeling scared. I could feel many men staring at me; I could smell the drunken men at the back of the bus. Though I consider myself to be a strong and independent woman that night I felt very vulnerable. As I arrived at Lucknow I called my husband with a breath of sigh and he picked me up at half past midnight from the deserted bus station.
I still asked myself – I am an educated & independent woman and ironically working for empowerment of women, so why was I scared? I remember a little girl from KGBV Ghorawal at Sonbhadra district who said “We are scared, and we do not raise our voice” but that day in the bus I understood what she meant. It was not just about raising her voice. It is the fact that there is no one that will hear and understand. That day even if I had raised my voice, there was no one who I could expect to respond. This is where I feel that no matter how brave we are, we still need the a lawful state, We need government to take hold of administration and make our railways, our buses, roads and public places safe for women.
Yes! The world needs to become a safer place for women and we should continue to demand this of our government and of our society.
Actually speaking we need to question ourselves first as to are we in true sense egalitarians ? to usher in a better environment for our children we ourselves need to bring change in us and this should begin at our homefront only….the need is to create an unbiased atmosphere and this I strongly believe can be done only if I am ready to accept it and then change it….we need to create same set of rules and break the age old mindsets which strongly set the discriminatory parameters…
we too have felt scared at some point or the other, but who cares? Can we think of justice and safety with the government not accepting the Verma commission recommendationsin totality? Can’t we read the government apathy? Gives me a sense of hopelessness.
I think we should keep speaking our mind and trying to change things around us and never give up hope!!